Personal experiences of counselling and psychotherapy
It helped us both
We went for couples counselling after we spent a whole weekend arguing. One of our children started crying when we were still at it on Sunday night, and we stopped, looked at each other in horror and agreed we’d give counselling a go.
We talked a lot and listened to each other talking a lot. Our counsellor helped us both try to understand each other better. We had small homework tasks to do each week, most of which were quite fun. Once you really understand why someone behaves the way they do, you can forgive or overlook their shortcomings. It’s like we’ve learned how to talk to each other all over again. I also learned that love doesn’t conquer all, but that it helps a lot! We still argue sometimes, but we know what pushes each other’s buttons now, so we also know when and how to stop.